A Disaster Recovery Plan is a documented, structured approach with instructions for responding to unplanned incidents.  Many businesses, especially IT, will have this plan in place.  Do you have a Disaster Recovery Plan in your home?  A step-by-step plan to minimize the effects of a disaster (death) so that your spouse can continue to operate or quickly resume mission-critical functions.

This post is co-written by Jeff and me, and inspired by my father, who passed away unexpectedly (cardiac arrest).  Our hope is that we encourage healthy discussion between you and your family soon.  Don’t wait…death doesn’t discriminate.  Talk about a plan.  Write it down!  Know what the plan is, where it is, and how to execute it…for this is one of the best gifts you can give to your spouse and family in the event of your untimely death.

My father kept a flash drive locked in a safe, containing important information so that my mom could continue to function in his absence.  When crisis strikes, not only are you overwhelmed with grief, panic and fear, but you still have bills to pay and a house to run.  Your mortgage is due…Where does the money come from?  Is it automatic?  Do you need to transfer money from one account to another?  When is your credit card payment due?  Do you have life insurance and who do you call?  Do you know all of your accounts, user names and passwords?  These questions can be paralyzing if you don’t know the answers or even where to look.  My father managed all of the finances, so when he was gone without warning, he left detailed instructions for my mom.  Jeff has done the same for me.

Young or old, there are things you can do now to make it easier on your family when death or illness strikes.  We’ve planned well, even made some mistakes that we hope you can avoid before it’s too late.  This is not an exhaustive list, but a great place to start the conversation with your spouse.  Save our list below, and start checking things off.  Plan, prepare, and give the gift of reassurance.



Jeff and Tara



  1. Thank you so much!! Y’all continue to be totally and completely awesome!!! Words… there are none. I love you both!! WOW!!!😘😘❤️🙏

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  2. Your Dad’s tremendous planning and organization helped me immediately upon his passing and provides guidance for me even today. It was the greatest gift he could have left besides my amazing children. The love you and Jeff have for each other and your boys is beautiful and is being lived out every day through your commitment to care for each other through every aspect of life. I am so incredibly proud of you all!

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  3. Good morning Homan family!
    At the last support group, we talked about emergency preparedness. When I first saw the title of your post, I thought “ooo…we are riding the same wavelength”. I like your post and thoughts. Very timely information. One that I need to remind my families of. Thank you!
    But, if you’d like a copy of the info I shared at group regarding preparations for home emergencies/disaster threats/go bags/care for pets etc, please let me know. Happy to email to you.
    Hugs to all, Connie

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  4. Tara and Jeff you too never cease to amaze me. I really respond to a text since I’m not very phone or computer savvy but I had to respond to this. It’s ironic that only three weeks ago I arranged all my funeral planning for the very reason that you sent this email. My mom did that for me and I didn’t realize the gift she gave me till she passed away. God bless you both. Love Jeannine ❤️❤️

    Sent from my iPhone



  5. Jeff and Tara you too never cease to amaze me. I rarely respond to a post only because I am not very tech savvy and I only do The very basics. But I had to tell you that only three weeks ago I made all my funeral arrangements. My mom did that for me before she passed away and I never realized till then what a gift she had given me. I wanted to give Janelle and Darin that same gift You two are such an inspiration to more people than you will ever know. I love you both and you and your family are in my prayers every single night. Love Jeannine ❤️❤️❤️❤️ This last one is for your mom ❤️

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